29 9 / 2014

28 9 / 2014

Anonymous said: Is ageism ok on tumblr because most people who use it aren't middle-aged? How is an age preference any different to a body type preference?

okcreepsters:

Ageism as a structural, systemic problem is not okay. Losing out on jobs, etc. because of age is not okay.

However, when it comes to online dating, there is something else at play. Many, many people find that significantly older men going after significantly younger women display predatory and/or grooming behaviors. It shouldn’t take too long going through our older men tag to notice a pattern in how these men assert themselves over the protestations of the women they are messaging. There is a lot of entitlement on display in that tag.

I’d also recommend reading this article about new stats from OkCupid. Even if you don’t want to read it, look at the following graphs. The first shows a woman’s age versus the average age of the men they find attractive. The second shows the reverse.

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You can also see this trend in the average age of leading men versus their female costars’ ages

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Notice a trend? Surprise! That “something else at play” is just our old friend misogyny. Hooray!

It’s telling that the only people I’ve ever seen complaining about ageism in online dating are men. Looking at these data, I’d have to say that the only ageism coming into play is that of older men against older women. So maybe women—young and old—are just getting tired of the misogynistic idea that we “expire” after a certain age. Guess what? We are still vibrant people after the grand old age of 23.

Stop feeling entitled to young women’s bodies. Stop getting your panties in a twist when we turn you down because we’re looking for a partner who is in the same stage of life as we are, or because we were abused by an older man as a child or teenager, or because we just fucking don’t like you because you’re being a creep.

- S

28 9 / 2014

theolivechronicles:

I can’t believe this Very Important Artwork was only 50 cents

theolivechronicles:

I can’t believe this Very Important Artwork was only 50 cents

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28 9 / 2014

gardnerhill:

mediamattersforamerica:

The issue with Fox’s misogyny toward female pilots is that it reinforces the very thing military women already deal with from male counterparts.

And veterans are speaking out.

Read an open letter to Fox about Eric Bolling’s “boobs on the ground” remark, written by U.S. military veterans from the Truman Nat’l Security project:

Before you jump to the standby excuse that you were “just making a joke” or “having a laugh,” let the men amongst our number preemptively respond: You are not funny. You are not clever. And you are not excused. Perhaps the phrase “boys will be boys”—inevitably uttered wherever misogyny is present—is relevant. Men would never insult and demean a fellow servicemember; boys think saying the word ‘boobs’ is funny.

The less obvious implication of your remarks, however, is that by offending an ally and cheapening her contribution, you are actively hurting the mission. We need to send a clear message that anyone, male or female, who will stand up to ISIS and get the job done is worthy of our respect and gratitude.

We issue an apology on your behalf to Major Al Mansouri knowing that anything your producers force you to say will be contrived and insincere. Major, we’re sincerely sorry for the rudeness; clearly, these boys don’t take your service seriously, but we and the rest of the American public do.

Disclosure: Lisa Reed is a Media Matters employee. 

Remember: To the pigs at Fox (and their masters Rupert Murdoch and Roger Ailes) - and every man who thinks like them - a woman could find the cure for cancer or be a war hero, and she’d still be the focus of 1960s-era jokes about how women are brainless sex toys.

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28 9 / 2014

totalbummerzine:

drakemoji:

its now my lifestyle

dude

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28 9 / 2014

"You know what else it costs to write about and talk about consent? I’m going to be super real with y’all. It has cost me the vast majority of my relationships with men. Not all at once, but eventually, over time, one by one. It was one sexist joke too many, it was one boundary-crossing-creep-defender over the line. It was the constant microaggressions or the combination of being privileged and defensive about it and unable or unwilling to do any better. Most grew weary of arguing about feminist issues, or about the fact that I wouldn’t let them just win those arguments, even though they usually had no idea what they were talking about. They couldn’t deal with the fact that I won’t allow anyone to say disparaging shit to and about me and mine. Or they won’t or can’t do better after I explain how to do better many many times and finally I have to peace out on them for my own safety. I have at present a tiny handful of guy friends. One I get into arguments with nearly every time we talk. I fear that relationship may go the way of most of my past relationships with subtly sexist men- away, that is to say. Which is really too fucking bad. Because the truth is, I don’t hate men- I hate male privilege. I really like men, shit, I love them actually, some of them. I miss having men friends, but not enough to let the mild misogyny slide. I have got to take care of me and mine. That’s where we clash, because I refuse to just smooth things over, to just let things go. They’re accustomed to deference and I’ve taught myself to drop that habit as best I can."

28 9 / 2014

queerpunkhamlet:

recoveringsjw:

sidneyia:

god-senpai:

queerpunkhamlet:

cis people aren’t allowed to edit my papers anymore

"WHAAATT? I HAVE TO EXPLAIN MY WORK??? IN MY OWN PAPER??? WHAT THE FUUUCK??"

It’s not my job to educate you, teacher. 

I’m betting one hundred bucks that this is a comment about a really badly written essay and not someone being actively transphobic.

well, you’re about to owe me one hundred bucks.
this is not the first time i mentioned privilege in the paper. or cisgender. this paper was written on my personal experiences with being trans, and the difficulties i’ve faced because of it, and the difficulties that cisgender people with otherwise comparable lives have not faced.
the terms privilege and cisgender had both been thoroughly elaborated on in this paper.
this paper was written for a women’s studies class, on gender analysis, in which both privilege and cisgender privilege in particular had been explained, elaborated upon, and discussed by the professor.
the comment was not by the professor, it was by a cis classmate during a peer review.
the words cisgender and privilege are both in scare quotes (in case you can’t google that or don’t know what it means or want to deny their existence, scare quotes is when you put a word or phrase in quotation marks to make it seem less real — the textual version of sarcastically making air quotes with your fingers)
another edit, by the same editor, involved asking me what my birth name was. i’m sure you don’t need to be told that that’s transphobic.
i spoke to the professor about this edit, and he agreed with me that the comment (and the way it was phrased) was out of line. in fact, he thought it was so out of line that he led a workshop for the class on how not to be disrespectful assholes to trans people (say, by asking for their birth name, or telling them they’re wrong or oversensitive about transphobia).
i got a 99% on the essay — WITHOUT changing anything the edit asked for.
the professor liked my essay so much that he asked to keep it as an EXAMPLE for future classes
bonus: if your reaction to seeing gross transphobic things is “well it’s probably the trans person’s fault”, then you’re gross and transphobic and i hope you don’t know any trans people IRL for their sake

queerpunkhamlet:

recoveringsjw:

sidneyia:

god-senpai:

queerpunkhamlet:

cis people aren’t allowed to edit my papers anymore

"WHAAATT? I HAVE TO EXPLAIN MY WORK??? IN MY OWN PAPER??? WHAT THE FUUUCK??"

It’s not my job to educate you, teacher.

I’m betting one hundred bucks that this is a comment about a really badly written essay and not someone being actively transphobic.

well, you’re about to owe me one hundred bucks.

  1. this is not the first time i mentioned privilege in the paper. or cisgender. this paper was written on my personal experiences with being trans, and the difficulties i’ve faced because of it, and the difficulties that cisgender people with otherwise comparable lives have not faced.
  2. the terms privilege and cisgender had both been thoroughly elaborated on in this paper.
  3. this paper was written for a women’s studies class, on gender analysis, in which both privilege and cisgender privilege in particular had been explained, elaborated upon, and discussed by the professor.
  4. the comment was not by the professor, it was by a cis classmate during a peer review.
  5. the words cisgender and privilege are both in scare quotes (in case you can’t google that or don’t know what it means or want to deny their existence, scare quotes is when you put a word or phrase in quotation marks to make it seem less real — the textual version of sarcastically making air quotes with your fingers)
  6. another edit, by the same editor, involved asking me what my birth name was. i’m sure you don’t need to be told that that’s transphobic.
  7. i spoke to the professor about this edit, and he agreed with me that the comment (and the way it was phrased) was out of line. in fact, he thought it was so out of line that he led a workshop for the class on how not to be disrespectful assholes to trans people (say, by asking for their birth name, or telling them they’re wrong or oversensitive about transphobia).
  8. i got a 99% on the essay — WITHOUT changing anything the edit asked for.
  9. the professor liked my essay so much that he asked to keep it as an EXAMPLE for future classes

bonus: if your reaction to seeing gross transphobic things is “well it’s probably the trans person’s fault”, then you’re gross and transphobic and i hope you don’t know any trans people IRL for their sake

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28 9 / 2014

cumberbuddy:

Benedict Cumberbatch can’t say “Penguins”. If you want a giggle… #Pengwings [x]

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28 9 / 2014

fireinthehob:

  • The protests are being held in order to achieve universal suffrage in Hong Kong. Although democracy had been promised for 2017 in 2008, China announced this August that Hong Kong people would only be able to vote from a pool of 2-3 specially selected candidates (all of whom would definitely have pro-China sentiments) 
  • University students held a week-long boycott of classes to protest for true democracy in Hong Kong 
  • Today riot police were deployed against peaceful protesters. Equipped in full riot gear the police used pepper spray to deter the protesters, mainly students and youths but also some elderly people have reported being sprayed point blank 
  • It is estimated that over 50,000 people have joined the protest and this number continues to grow
  • This is the largest political protest in Hong Kong since our independence from the UK in 1997 
  • Although the protests remain peaceful, police have now started to use tear gas and have brought out long guns loaded with rubber bullets (there hasn’t yet been a report of any bullets being shot)
  • Over 80 arrests have been made including students as young as 16 for taking part in these protests
  • They are cutting cell phone receptions in the protest area so that people can’t share any information
  • Violence is increasing as police continue to instigate protesters
  • All this comes right before the October 1st celebration of the 65th anniversary of founding of the People’s Republic of China 
  • There are rumours that the PLA (the Chinese army) are going to be brought into the city tonight 

More facts about Hong Kong:

  • We run under a one country, two systems policy with China meaning that we are part of China but have our own government and laws. 
  • Protests for universal suffrage have been held throughout the summer but these are the biggest yet 
  • Anti-China and anti-government sentiments are at their highest levels yet. Survey results showed that 1 in 5 people are thinking of emigrating from the city. 
  • In June, China issued a white paper essentially telling Hong Kong to remember their place and re-asserting their authority over the city

The scenes from the protest look awful. In my 17 years in Hong Kong I’ve never seen anything like it. The world needs to know about this and say something before we get a recurrence of the Tiananmen Square massacre.

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I hope everyone stays safe. Hong Kong stay strong. 

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28 9 / 2014